There was a woman, so beautiful that the birds tumbled from the heavens and the moon was put to shame, who loved her husband dearly.
Unfortunately, she was dogged by that cruel fate which often attaches to beautiful and talented women.
No matter how tender and how kind she had been she was abandoned by her heartless
Weeping tears of misery she went to a Zen master and said: “Master, I am suffering greatly, I have suffered so much with this misfortune that I can take no more. How can I live this life?”
The Zen master remained silent, and the woman wept even more bitterly, on and on without end.
In order to try and induce her to see things in a different light, the Zen master slapped the table and shouted assertively:
“As far as I can see, it was not your husband who abandoned you but you who willingly abandoned him!”
As if she had had a bucket of cold water thrown over her, the woman rushed to reply:
“Master, I am to be pitied, how can you say that I willingly abandoned him when I have suffered such misfortune, how can it be possible!”
The master said: “Just think a moment, I very much sympathise with you in what has happened. But this misfortune is in the past and should be letpass, you mustn’t spend every day mulling over it from morn till night.
Before you were married did not the sun shine brightly on your life?
Your husband was heartless and that such a man has left you shows that your affinity had run its course and is a matter for congratulation.
Zen says that having been struck by the arrow of another you should not then loose another arrow at yourself.
When you have been harmed by somebody else on no account must you esteem yourself any the less! At the moment somebody else has fired an arrow at you but you persist in poking at the wound with a knife, aren’t you being unfair on yourself?
“If you go on about this all day and every day it will become more and more serious and like a mountain it will overwhelm you. ”
The woman immediately came to a great understanding.
What had she realised? 她醒悟到什么呢？
You cannot change your environment but you can change yourself;
You cannot change events but you can change your attitude to them;
You cannot change the past but you can change the present!
你改变不了过去,但是你可以改变现在！摘自: 吴言生著《CHINESE ZEN A PATH TO PEACE AND HAPPINESS》，
TONY BLISHEN 译，Better Link 出版社，纽约 )